I am 21 and I have always been attracted to older men. I have had one relationship with a man my age, it was the longest lasting relationship but I couldn't say why. I think alot of that 2 years was spent wasting time.
I love feeling protected. Older men are secure. I realise that relationships are give and take and you're always learning new things together or from one another, but I get so frustrated with inexperience and feeling like I'm the more mature one in the relationship. I want my man to be my solid ground, be the wiser half.
For a woman I think its fair to have a few expectations, I mean.. we will be carrying their child and then pushing it out one day. Ha.
All good and well there, however I DO appreciate a certain degree of wealth in my men. Not because I'm a gold digger who wants a life of sitting on my arse without doing a thing, driving a BMW. But because when the day arrives that im a wife and a mother, I don't want to be a 'Working Mother'. I want to spend those vital years at home with my children. I want my kids to have no boundaries on the activities they do, or schools they attend. Therefore, for what I want, I require a man who makes a fair amount of money.
Attraction is another issue, some find the idea of being with an older person a little repulsive. But at the end of the day, its your souls that are connecting. I think its important to be able to look at your partner and think to yourself "I love you", but is it really neccesary to go through life looking at your partner thinking "Gawwdd, your a sexy devil". Beauty doesn't last forever. I consider myself a very attractive individual, which I'm not ashamed to admit. But I would be very disturbed if some one was to consider pursuing a relationship with me for my appearance. Because... where will they be when im 40 and I'm still madly in love with them? They may not be with me any more.
Summing it up, concluding with this.. There is nothing wrong with wanting a stable older man who will always practise respect within the home and pass on valuable lessons to their offspring. Money makes the world spin, unfortunately. Theres no such thing as a free lunch, so we need money, yes? Some need more than others and its a personal decision and is not to be judged.
One day (if all goes to plan) I will be able to offer my children the old fashioned stay at home Mum and a wise and respectful father.