I doubt there is anything you can say or explain that is going to make anyone understand the human dynamic without labels or categorization. Whatever taboo that arises, or convention that is broken, if not understood already, can only be learned by experience. I mean, what do we really know about things we are skeptical and judgmental about until we've been faced with the experience ourselves? People are people, and there isn't much we can do to define or assume the things we really don't know. People can make their own choices, and these life experiences are neither good or bad, but what we make them and get out of them in terms of learning. Why waste your time trying to fit into some mold of how life should be?